Nov 1 – My father passed away over the weekend.  I’m writing this some weeks later, after I’ve made some peace with it.  My friend Dawn suggested lighting a candle when I was feeling sad, and it has helped a lot.  I set up a special corner as a shrine of sorts, and I keep the candle there.  Turns out Dawn also gave the candle as a gift and it had been sitting around waiting for a good use.